Seeking

This took a while to get a hang of but is worth the time.
Fly, Fly 2

The Mad Chef lead me to my sensitive little inner pomo child.

(Thanks to everyone for the poetry support, I am back on the blog wagon with more to come)

Your Inner Child Is Sad

You're a very sensitive soul. You haven't grown that thick skin that most adults have. Easily hurt, you tend to retreat to your comfort zone. You don't let many people in - unless you've trusted them for a long time.

And a long pomo childern rant:

found the article below here:
then I wrote between it's lines...

The post-modern child

Children growing up in the post-modern family have been called post-modern children. Parents in the post-modern family may relinquish their roles as educators (Shorter 1975). For many post-modern children there is dual socialization by family and day-care provider. For example, in the Nordic welfare states, the family has been described as an intimacy sanctuary and a zone of stability while daycare centres develop the child's capacity to exercise self-control with respect to affective behavior. The post-modern child is required to make continuous flexible adjustments between these spheres (Denick 1989).

I agree that there is "dual socialization" taking place more commonly these days but is it significantly different then having a nanny, niebor, parent # 2, au pere etc share child care responsibilities? Is this really a post-modern characteristic or just simply a cultural habit formed by an over worked generation.

With child care shared between family and day care, new problems have arisen. While some children thrive on dual socialization, others languish, unable to adjust to either environment or to the demands of daily transition from one environment to the other. The young child may be unable to form the necessary communication link between the two environments. Responsibilities may not be divided clearly between home and day-care centre; as a result, neither may provide some crucial aspects of child-rearing. For example, in the United States, neither the day-care centre nor working parents may perceive themselves in charge of helping the child to develop the capacity to exercise self-control nor of teaching the child basic social comportment, such as table manners, greeting rituals, narration of daily events, and interview skills required for social orientation and reconnaissance.

Agree, but I feel that American society as a whole has become less interested in table manners, greeting rituals and interview skillz as he puts it.

In the United States, concerns have been expressed about children raised in impoverished single-parent households by young mothers who are still children themselves. According to Elkind (1981), there also are problems with post-modern children of middle-class families as permeable families "hurry" their children to take on the physical, social, and psychological trappings of adulthood before they are prepared to deal with them. Permeable families tend to thrust children and teenagers forward to deal with realities of the outside world at ever-earlier ages, perceiving them as competent to deal with the steady diet of overt violence, sexuality, substance abuse, and environmental degradation that they view on television. Such abuses in the United States and Europe often translate into worse abuses in poor neighbourhoods of large third world cities, where unsupervised children of all ages are lured, together with adults, into watching sexually explicit "adult videos" for the equivalent of a few pennies (Dr. Tade Akin Aina 1992, personal communication). Countries such as the United States, as well as places in the developing world that have departed most widely from institutional family values, appear to be particularly vulnerable to such abuses in the post-modern era. Both Elkind (1981) and Spock and Rothenberg (1992) deplore the tendency of parents to rush children into adult roles.

Is this what he means??

Although parents remain very concerned about their children in the postmodern world, perceptions of parenting have changed. In the modern era, parenting was intuitive and child-health professionals guided parents by teaching them the general norms of development. The focus of parent education was development of the whole child. In contrast, parenting in the post-modern world is perceived as a learned technique with specific strategies for dealing with particular issues. The target has shifted from the whole child to developing the child's positive sense of self-esteem. In the modern era, parents made the effort to fit advice to the particular needs of the child; Elkind (1992) points out that the directive post-modern techniques may be easier for parents but the child may be deprived of customized treatment. Moreover, he strongly believes that the focus on the whole child should not be lost.

Parents, your thoughts?

Certainly, the nuclear family was not perfect. In its attempts to explain the turbulence of the 1960s, the recent PBS documentary "Making Sense of the Sixties" powerfully indicted the stifling, conventional, and rigid nature of the nuclear family of the 1950s. The revolution that led to post-modern life corrected old imbalances in society through de-differentiation of parental and gender roles. Yet these radical social changes may have created new imbalances by increasing demands on children and adolescents.

Ok, so that was more boring then I expected but it was all I could find on post-modern childern.

Wow, a truly eloquent postmodernist.

(something to break up my bad poetry)

watching Hair sandwiched in between soft pillows,
the park, cruising to the Wailers and that pungent smell

swarthy boys in the hood, heads cocked, wondering
what is she doing here?

melting in the back of the room, desks reeking of metal,
sleeping to the French cassette tape
spitting out "je parle francais" like a broken record

listening to No Cure For Cancer in the van,
clueless about Rwanda and Dahmer's death

the boys in the lot at school, skipping class to hear
the O.J. verdict and Jackie, the security guard, laughing

Mr. Redican signs the year book "the walrus",
madrugata eterna alias born and time ceases to exist
with out Pink Floyd

Seriously, this is my new fix and the reason I am avoiding blogosphere..I am not really fashion savvy but it all started when I felt left out of the world of fantasy football leagues.
Also a neat way to donate to the American Red Cross.